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Change Yourself

We all have people and circumstances in our lives that we can’t change, right? I can tell one of those just popped into your mind. But what if instead of complaining and feeling helpless or unhappy, you took advantage of the ability to change yourself.

I read this old parable about a boy who was so discouraged by his experiences in school he told his grandfather he wanted to quit. His grandfather filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to a boil. In the first, he placed carrots, in the second he placed eggs and the last he placed ground coffee beans. He let them sit and boil, without saying a word. In about twenty minutes he turned off the burners. He fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. He pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then he ladled the coffee out into a cup. Turning to the boy, he asked, “Tell me, what do you see?” “Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” the boy replied. Then he asked the boy to feel the carrots, which he did and noted that they were soft and mushy. His grandfather then asked him to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, the boy observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, he asked the boy to sip the coffee. He smiled as he tasted the coffee with its rich aroma. The boy asked, “I don’t understand. What does this mean, if anything?”

His grandfather laughed and explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity – boiling water – but each had reacted differently. “Which are you?” the grandfather asked. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, becomes soft and loses strength? Are you the egg that appears not to change but whose heart is hardened? Or are you the coffee bean that changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the coffee bean, when things are at their worst, your very attitude will change your environment for the better, making it sweet and palatable.”

The moral of the parable is that it is not the experience that matters. What matters is how you interpret and react to the experience. We are each given a set of experiences in life. The experiences are neutral. They have no meaning. It is how we interpret the experiences that give them meaning. Your interpretations of your experiences shape your beliefs and theories about the world which, in turn, influence the way you live your life.

The grandfather’s lesson is that when you can’t change your circumstances, you change yourself.



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I attended a conference this week. Three days of intense Bible teaching. Three days of note-taking. Three days of not wanting to see how many adjustments I need to make in order to get back on the track I am supposed to be on.

So . . . does that mean it was a good conference or a bad conference?

It was good in the sense that everything taught lined up with God’s Word and pointed me in the direction of His divine destiny for me. It was bad in the sense that now I am accountable to do something about it.

And what I do has to matter. Today.

God is bringing to my remembrance things He’s showed me to do. Things I didn’t have time for, or didn’t feel qualified for, or just plain forgot about. Important things. Eternal things.

Perhaps you’ve got an adjustment or two waiting as well.

Go for it.

There’s change ahead.




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