The World of Leadership #5

This is a great post in our pastor’s Leadership Series. You can check out his blog at http://morriswatson.wordpress.com/.

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leadership images6 In the world of leadership there is no inherent right to lead.  The place of leadership is earned and carries a great deal of responsibility.  Leaders must develop certain character attributes if they want to lead people effectively.  Leadership without character is destined for disastrous results and only through well-developed character can leaders give the direction necessary to prosper their followers in every aspect of life.  In this instalment of “The World of Leadership” I want to share five attributes that I believe every leader needs if they want to earn the right to lead.

Five Central Character Attributes Of A Leader

As always there may be things that could be added to this list but the points that are here can lay a foundation that you can build upon.  Without good character as a foundation a leader will struggle with trust and loyalty issues in their leadership.  People will…

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Fulfill Your Vision Despite Opposition

You’ve finally decided to go for it. The Vision. The Dream. The God-given Plan. You’ve thought about it for months, maybe even years, and now you’re ready and excited.

But the people in your life aren’t.

In fact, you get the feeling your family and friends would rather have  you stay right where you are. You try to convince them that this path is your true calling, but they remain skeptical. Their doubts sap your passion and resolve, and deep down you start to wonder if they are right.

Maybe you’re not cut out to be whatever it is you believe you’re cut out to be at all.

Instead of cheering you on in your quest to fulfill your vision, those closest to you may:

  • tell you that your dreams are unrealistic or even crazy
  • stress that a safe, reliable job is more important
  • remind you of past failures and warn against taking future risks
  • urge you to consider your dream a hobby, not a serious pursuit

These are common reactions. Because people feel threatened by change and uncertainty. Your new direction can be unsettling and worrisome for your friends and family. It’s not that they don’t want you to succeed; they just don’t want to leave the familiar behind.

Whenever you embark upon something new, skepticism and doubt will follow. It’s inevitable.

But deep inside, you know that God has shown you exactly where He wants you to go, what He wants you to do, and how He wants you to do it. He has placed within you the dream, the VISION, to do that which only you can do.

It’s big. It’s scary. It’s just plain exciting!

It will take tenacity, focus, and determination to keep you from giving up.

Learning to press forward in faith, with God providing the direction, will make you stronger, more committed to succeed, and ultimately, the very person you were always meant to be.

When your favorite people aren’t supportive, moving forward with your plans can feel like trekking the outback with nothing but a rope and a knife on your belt. You’re attempting something you’ve never done before and you’ll face real dangers – possible financial struggles, work/life balance issues, and more. Yet you must press on. You can’t afford to let other people’s good intentions hold you back.

Here are some tips to help you along the way:

1. Craft concise responses to questions about what you’re doing. Find simple, clear ways to explain what you do when asked. Create some basic scripts in advance if you have to. It’s great that your family and friends care about you, so tell them that. Give them general updates, but don’t get into a lot of detail. Volunteering too much information can create a slippery slope that invites interference.

2. Choose your confidants wisely. Pray about who would be the right people to ask for help, or just to lend a listening ear. These people will give it to you straight, but also make you feel encouraged and uplifted. They are the few with whom you can confidently share everything – even your fears and failures.

3. Prepare for negativity. If you have a particularly skeptical person in your life, try preparing some kind but firm responses in advance. Something like, “I appreciate your concern, and you’re right, things might be tough for a while, but I have help and a plan, and I’m confident that everything will be alright.”

4. Be on a mission. Keep your goal front and center. Write it down. Memorize it. Get a solid vision and purpose for yourself, strong enough to help you plow through on tough days. Don’t underestimate the importance of your “why”. And don’t be afraid to communicate your mission through everything you do. Passion is contagious and will draw supporters to you.

4. Find good mentors and teachers. Stick close to the people who believe in you and what you’re doing.

6. Find supportive groups and communities. Get involved in a good church. Join a small bible study group. Ask God to show you where you can plug in. Some of the relationships you build will benefit you for years to come.

7. Keep looking for and trying new avenues for learning and growth. You will outgrow learning opportunities. Give yourself permission to move on when you feel a particular person, program, approach or activity is not the right fit for you, or isn’t working any longer. Don’t waste valuable time due to indecision. Don’t feel bad about moving on, either. Keep the good connections you made and lessons you learned, and let go of the rest.

8. Defend your boundaries. Fiercely protect your attitude and your vision. If you can’t avoid vampires (the people who suck the life out of you), be nice to them, but not open or forthcoming. Remember that negative comments can ruin your confidence and mood for hours or even days. You owe it to yourself to avoid such comments so you can do your best work.

9. Take excellent care of yourself. Get enough sleep, revive that exercise routine, and be sure to eat healthily. Your physical and emotional state will benefit, and it’ll be great for your outlook and stamina.

10. Help someone else. Reach out to others, either through your work or otherwise. Unexpected blessings come when you put aside self-interest and focus on those who need you.

11. Pray. Be in the Word. Spend time with our loving Father who wants above all else for you to succeed.

When you shake things up in your own life, the people around you are bound to react. Don’t let their fears and frustrations hold you back from achieving your dreams. Persistence in the face of skepticism will strengthen you, and as you continue on the journey to your dreams.

The world needs your contribution. For every person who feels threatened when you step up your game, 20 to 100 others will likely be inspired.

Maybe, like me, you are blessed with family and friends who are on board with your vision. If that’s the case, stop right now and thank God for those wonderful people in your life. They are rare.

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The Office of Dumb Ideas

Once upon a time, there was a woman who worked for the Competent International Baloney Company. She always tried to do her best for the Company and sometimes she was rewarded with a pat on the head, her name on a 4″ x 6″ piece of paper in a cheap plastic frame, and a $5 gift card for Starbucks. She thought she was happy. Even though she didn’t drink Starbucks coffee.

This went on for a number of years, and the woman embraced every procedure change, every management change, and every other Dumb Idea that came from the top. Sometimes They even asked her opinion and let her think that she had a measure of influence in the decision making process.

But eventually, the woman began to question the sanity of Those in the Office of Dumb Ideas. They were far away in the city at the Centre of the Universe, and they didn’t have much use for the comments or opinions from the people in the rest of the country, especially those in the Wild West. Most of Them had no concept of what it was that the employees of the Competent International Baloney Company actually did. So, while the Dumb Ideas sounded good to Them, the Ideas were seldom practical. Or logical. Or workable. And the Ideas always cost a lot of money, which was okay with Them because They would rather waste the Company’s money on Dumb Ideas than paint the walls or fix the toilets or clean the carpets. Or give their employees a raise.

The woman rebelled.

So They promoted her. Not because they agreed with her, but because They thought if They had her under their noses close to the Office of Dumb Ideas in the city at the Centre of the Universe, They could convince her that They were right and she was wrong, and she would behave herself.

She didn’t.

So she asked to be sent back to the Wild West.

They agreed. But they also sent the Vice President of Follow My Orders Or Else to keep an eye on her. It goes without saying that the woman and the Vice President did not get along very well. Not at all, in fact.

The day came that the Office of Dumb Ideas decided to shut down the department which was managed by the woman. All employees were offered the choice of a job elsewhere within the Competent International Baloney Company – jobs that in no way compared to what they had been doing – or a Generous Severance. Every employee chose the Generous Severance.

The woman went on to enjoy her Life more than she ever had before. She is grateful to the Office of Dumb Ideas for eliminating her position and giving her, and her co-workers, the opportunity to pursue their dreams.

Was it all a Master Plan?

You tell me.

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Breaking Out

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Yesterday, I prayed.

Well, I pray every day. But yesterday was different. Because I was desperate. You know, the kind of desperate when you’re at the there’s no way this is going to work without Divine intervention and if that doesn’t happen, I’m done. Yup, that was the motivation behind my pleading, whining, begging prayer. And I’m pretty sure that once again, God rolled His eyes.

There’s this story, you see, that I’ve been working on for what seems like a hundred years, but since I am not even close to that old, I might be exaggerating just a little. In reality, it’s been at least five years. My Word doc drafts only go back to 2009, so I know it’s been that long for sure. Some of the initial ideas have been on the back burner since 1990. Yeah, a long time.

The day has come to write the thing and get it out there.

There’s been a little issue with that. I got stuck in a boring part and couldn’t find a way out. Every time I sat down to work on it, I ended up staring into space and thinking that if I thought was dull, why in the world would anyone want to read it? So I’d close the file and do something else. Like crochet a doily. Or bake cookies. Or read Stephen King.

People would ask, “How’s the book coming?” and I’d smile and nod and act like it was all good. Ha! If they only knew.

Hence the prayer of desperation.

After I explained the situation to God (as if He didn’t already know), I asked Him for words. Yes, words. Words to get through the fog. Words to flow together in harmony. Words to excite and enthrall and elate. Words to create scenes. Word to write the story the way it needs to be written.

Then I sat in front of my computer for three hours, staring at a blank screen.

So, I cleaned up my office. Unpacked a couple of boxes (I know, I know, it’s been six months since we moved). Sorted my pens and paper clips. And all the while, that darn blank screen just glared at me. Mocking me. Taunting me.

Finally, in a fit of frustration, I pulled out my journal and started to write. And write. And write. I ended up with four pages of much needed revision and new ideas for said story. The plot fell into place. The questions got answered. And some very interesting twists appeared.

Did God come through? ABSOLUTELY!

But not until I actually picked up my pen, opened my book and began to write. He was there all along, waiting for me while I was waiting for Him. He just wanted me to go first. Then He joined in and we took turns coming up with a great bunch of pages – I wrote, He spoke, then I wrote some more, and He told me more. It was so fun!

I’m breaking out.

Breaking out of old writing habits that hardly ever work. Breaking out of trying to do this by myself. Breaking out of a box that I put myself in.

It’s going to take some serious work to get this story back on the right track, but oh, it will be worth it.

Now I’m kind of giddy!

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The Library

The library has changed.

Oh, there are still lots of books and frumpy librarians, but it’s not the same. Gone are the reverent whispers of book-lovers. Gone are the muffled sounds of volumes being shelved. Gone is the quiet.

Rustling papers and turning pages have been replaced by the tapping of computer keyboards. Sacred silence between the stacks has been replaced by cell phones ringing and loud conversations. Children’s story time has disappeared and a library visit is now an opportunity for kids to run and shriek while their parents shout at them from across the room.

I came to the library to write. Should be a good place to concentrate, you’d think. Perhaps it is. When it’s closed.

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My New List of Favorite Things

Don’t you find that your list of favorite things changes as you chug along in your life? I do. So, on a completely random note, I will dedicate this, my 555th blog post, to my new list. Here it is, in no particular order.

1. Baby girls. Well one three-month-old named Adelaide.

2. Moleskine notebooks. This has made the list for years.

3. Acrylic artist paints. Oh, the possibilities.

4. Hamilton Beach BrewMaster. Makes a pot of coffee on one side and takes a K-cup on the other.

5. Downton Abbey Season 4. Except for Edna.

6. Monday night prayer meetings at the church.

7. Cooper’s grocery store in Chilliwack.

8. Samsung S4 Mini smart phone. But I still miss the Blackberry keyboard.

9. J.J. Abrams. Some of you will get it.

10. Scentsy.

11. Tupperware.

12. Bath & Body Works. All of it.

13. Wednesday morning bible studies with my friends.

14. Grandchildren. Lots of them.

15. Ice cream. Always on the list.

16. The view from my living room window.

17. God’s words.

18. Cheez Whiz. Even though there are those who claim it is not real food.

19. Crossword puzzles. The hard ones. Sometimes.

20. The ice maker/dispenser in my fridge. Best invention EVER!

Well, folks, that’s it for today. What’s on your list?

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Get Past Yourself

You want to move ahead, but you can’t do it. You’d like to do something great, but you don’t have the courage. You would love to get out of the rut you’re in, but you just don’t know how.

I have the answer, at least in part.

Get past yourself.

Get past yourself and your limitations (actual or self-imposed), your fears (real or imagined), your negative thinking, your worrying, your past. See yourself as God sees you. See the talents He’s given you. See the people He’s put in your life. See how much He loves you. See His plan for you.

What? A plan?

Yes.

Maybe you’ve never been a regular bible reader and maybe prayer hasn’t been at the top of your to-do list for a long time. Yet, these two actions are the very best ways to find out about that plan. The Lord will speak to you through His Word. He will speak to you when you spend time with Him in prayer. And He will begin to show you things through other people, through circumstances in your life, and through acts of obedience.

Here’s a little story.

I was raised in a Christian home and have been a born-again believer for 45 years. For a good number of those years, I ambled through life with the attitude that my spiritual walk was an option. In other words, I read the bible when I felt like it, prayed when I was in the mood (which wasn’t often), and I gave little thought to figuring out what it was that God actually wanted me to do. I wasn’t that special anyway and I was sure God’s time was better used on those really holy people. My life was good, for the most part.

Then I started learning about the importance of things like studying the Word of God, spending time with Him in real conversation – not just those quickie “bless me” prayers – and allowing Him to become involved in my life. So, I tried it. And things changed. Attitudes changed. I changed. I began to see God’s touch on every area of my life. And for the first time, I actually felt the presence of God with me.

Fast forward to the present. January 2014.

Our pastor has encouraged us, as a church, to devote ourselves to a renewed focus on our relationship with Jesus Christ for personal growth and transformation, ultimately resulting in breakthrough and revival not only in our own church, but in our city and our country.

I took up the challenge.

Reading the Word. Praying. Fasting.

The results for me personally have been immediate. Astounding, even. It’s like God was just waiting for me to say, “Okay, here I am. I’m ready.” He just scooped me up and pointed me in the right direction, with a gentle kick in the pants to get me going. Ideas are pouring out. Areas of my life that I though closed forever have opened up in such brilliant ways. His Word is “alive-er” than ever. Talking with Him is an actual two-way conversation. As it should be.

How did this happen?

I got past myself. My notions. My opinions. My hurts. My failures. My arrogance. My I’m-too-old-and-set-in-my-ways attitude.

And then I simply obeyed.

“There has never been the slightest doubt in my mind that the God who started this great work in you would keep at it and bring it to a flourishing finish on the very day Christ Jesus appears.” Philippians 1:6 (The Message)

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